See what is happening
Name the patterns beneath your arguments—different “operating systems,” unspoken assumptions, scorekeeping, criticism, and defensive habits.
A guided relationship practice
You don’t need another book to read. You need a marriage to reboot together.
The 34-Day Relationship Reboot is a structured, biblical program for Christian couples who want to stop drifting and build stronger communication, deeper connection, and healthier habits—one day at a time.
✓ One-time purchase: $98 USD
✓ Not a subscription
✓ Instant member-area access
34 days · 7 phases · 41 lessons
The five signposts carried through the program
Reflect
Realign
Reconnect
Renew
Repeat
These are the same five signposts shown on the program cover. The final one—Repeat—matters most for long-term marriage, because the habits you practice become the marriage you maintain.
A practice, not a pile of advice
Move from intention to a marriage you can actually maintain
Each day gives your spouse something specific to understand, discuss, and try. The workbook turns every lesson into a conversation and a shared commitment.
Change the pattern
Use specific tools to pause, listen, translate, repair, reconnect, and hold respectful boundaries during difficult conversations.
Keep what works
Turn your final week into a 90-day maintenance plan with weekly meetings, shared prayer, daily connection, and a clear relapse strategy.
Two operating systems
Honor and nurture: different emphases, not different levels of love
The program helps you recognize when one partner is running primarily from honor and the other from nurture. These descriptions are broad-brush generalizations meant to open a conversation—not diagnose either of you.
HONOR OS
NURTURE OS
Decode the distance
Sometimes two good intentions arrive as one misunderstanding
One of you may be trying to protect, respect, and establish safety. The other may be seeking warmth, emotional attunement, and care. Without translation, those priorities can collide.
The Honor OS
Often looks like: keeping promises, protecting the marriage, providing, and treating your spouse with respect. It may need the language of being understood and cared for.
The Nurture OS
Often looks like: emotional closeness, tenderness, encouragement, and responsive care. It may need the language of stability, faithfulness, and being protected.
Keep it honest: these are conversation tools, not personality tests. Your marriage, history, and personalities are more complex than any framework.
How the 34 days work
One day at a time. Together. With something practical in your hands.
The program is built to be completed as a couple. One person watching alone will not unlock the full value. Bring the lessons to your shared table, conversation, and prayer life.
Your 15-minute rhythm
- 1.Watch or read the day’s lesson. Build a shared understanding.
- 2.Complete the workbook exercise. Turn insight into a concrete practice.
- 3.Discuss it together. Listen for what the other person means.
- 4.Choose one small step. Make it specific enough to repeat.
1
Reflect: understand the current system
You name what is working, what is not, and where resentment or assumptions are running in the background.
2
Realign: change how you communicate
You build new habits for pausing, listening, repairing, and speaking from a place of prayerful responsibility.
3
Reconnect: rebuild the friendship
You replace distance with curiosity, appreciation, play, and intentional pursuit of one another.
4
Renew: install the permanent upgrade
You write your marriage dashboard, weekly rhythm, regression plan, and launch-day commitments.
5
Repeat: keep the habit alive
Your 90-day plan protects what you built. Consistency matters more than a perfect week.
What is included
Everything you need to make the lessons workable
This is not only a watch-and-memorize course. The workbook gives you places to pause, write, talk, pray, agree, and track what you are practicing together.
41
All 41 lessons
Instant access to the complete member area: one welcome lesson, six phase overviews, and 34 daily lessons.
WB
Printable participant workbook
A digital file you can print or use on a tablet, with exercises, logs, agreements, and reflection prompts.
TOOL
Conflict recovery protocol
A calm plan for pause, confess, take responsibility, forgive freely, and reconnect—written while you are clear-headed.
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Weekly marriage meeting template
A repeatable 15-minute rhythm for gratitude, check-ins, challenges, requests, planning, and prayer.
PACT
Reboot agreement
A shared commitment to participation, respectful communication, daily connection, grace after missed days, and safety.
90
90-day maintenance plan
A practical way to keep the habits alive with weekly rhythms, rituals, check-ins, and a clear focus for each 30-day period.
The complete day-by-day curriculum
41 lessons. One covenant marriage.
Open any phase to see every lesson. The workbook supports the program, but the lessons remain easy to follow on their own.
Before you reboot
Welcome: The Rules of Engagement
Before you reboot
Welcome: The Rules of Engagement
Lesson
Welcome: The Rules of Engagement
Phase 1
Restart the Connection
Phase 1
Restart the Connection
Overview
Phase 1 Overview: Restart the Connection
Day 1
Welcome to Your Relationship Reboot
Day 2
Remember Why You Fell in Love
Day 3
Identify Your Current Connection Status
Day 4
Stop Keeping Score
Day 5
Make the Reboot Commitment
Phase 2
Decode the Operating Systems
Phase 2
Decode the Operating Systems
Overview
Phase 2 Overview: Decode the Operating Systems
Day 6
You’re Running Different Operating Systems
Day 7
Understanding the Honor OS
Day 8
Understanding the Nurture OS
Day 9
The Translation Error
Day 10
Don’t Fix It. Understand It.
Day 11
Build Your Translation Dictionary
Phase 3
Upgrade Communication
Phase 3
Upgrade Communication
Overview
Phase 3 Overview: Upgrade Communication
Day 12
The Five-Second Rule
Day 13
The Power of Tell Me More
Day 14
Listen to Understand, Not to Defend
Day 15
Your Face Has a Microphone
Day 16
Replace Accusations with Invitations
Day 17
The Rapid Repair Cycle
Day 18
Your First Communication Upgrade Test
Phase 4
Remove Relationship Viruses
Phase 4
Remove Relationship Viruses
Overview
Phase 4 Overview: Remove Relationship Viruses
Day 19
The Selfishness Virus
Day 20
The Criticism and Defensiveness Loop
Day 21
The Assumption Virus
Day 22
Resentment, The Background Program
Day 23
Forgiveness, Accountability, and Repair
Day 24
Install the Conflict Recovery Protocol
Phase 5
Rebuild the Friendship Network
Phase 5
Rebuild the Friendship Network
Overview
Phase 5 Overview: Rebuild the Friendship Network
Day 25
The Missing Network Connection
Day 26
Relearn Your Partner
Day 27
Small Connections, Big Results
Day 28
Bring Back the Fun
Day 29
Pursue Your Spouse Again
Day 30
Build Your Friendship Rituals
Phase 6
Install the Permanent Upgrade
Phase 6
Install the Permanent Upgrade
Overview
Phase 6 Overview: Install the Permanent Upgrade
Day 31
Your Updated Marriage Dashboard
Day 32
The Weekly Marriage Meeting
Day 33
Preventing Software Regression
Day 34
Your Marriage 2.0 Launch Day
Practical tools for real conversations
The tools help you do something different in the next disagreement
Growth becomes easier when you know what to do and when to do it. The workbook gives you language, sequences, and agreements you can return to under pressure.
Covenant principle
“Do not be anxious about anything… let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6–7
A five-second pause before you speak
Create a little distance between the stimulus and your response so your next words come from intention, not reflex.
A five-step repair cycle
Pause, acknowledge, take responsibility, repair, and reconnect when ordinary hurts occur.
A written recovery protocol
Agree on a signal word, break length, return time, ground rules, and safety clause while you are calm.
A weekly marriage meeting
Keep appreciation, requests, support, planning, and prayer from being lost in the noise of daily life.
A two-day connection rule
Choose a realistic minimum for real connection and shared prayer so a busy week does not become disconnection.
A Day 34 letter and blessing
Exchange something specific, honest, and kind, then speak a blessing to one another.
What early readers noticed
The companion course has earned thoughtful feedback
Important: These six reviews are for Daniel Blakeslee’s companion six-lesson video course, not for the 34-Day Relationship Reboot. The 34-Day program does not yet have reviews of its own.
The insights I gained helped my clients create healthier communication patterns. Very well done, thank you! I thought the “hacking” and “operating system” analogies were clever.
Jessica L., Marriage Coach
Review of the companion six-lesson course
A Powerful Biblical Framework That Transforms How Couples Understand Each Other!
Frank H., Online Reviewer
Review of the companion six-lesson course
Centered on Epistle to the Ephesians 5:33, it clearly explains sacrificial love and strengthening respect in a balanced, practical way.
Lynn W., Relationship Blogger
Review of the companion six-lesson course
The practical strategies provided helped my own relationship flourish remarkably and the insights I gained helped my clients create healthier connections.
Kevin M., Marriage Coach
Review of the companion six-lesson course
It’s easy to follow, but there’s still enough depth to make you think and look at things from a different angle. It’s not just something you breeze through and forget—it actually sticks with you.
Mike C., USA
Review of the companion six-lesson course
The idea of honor and nurture as different operating systems gave me a new lens for understanding conflict. It encouraged small, intentional habits rooted in faith, reminding me that strong marriages are built through practice, humility, and daily grace.
James P., Counseling Professional
Review of the companion six-lesson course
Meet the author
Daniel “Dan” Blakeslee
Dan is a pastoral counselor and speaker based in Virginia. He is the bestselling author of the Relationship Hacking book series, a former Navy submariner and Chief Petty Officer, and has counseled couples for more than thirty years. Dan and his wife Michele have been married since 1981 and have two daughters.
This may be right for you if
You are ready to participate, not just consume
- ✓You are in a healthy marriage and want to grow closer.
- ✓You are a Christian couple who wants a structured practice grounded in faith.
- ✓You can set aside time to learn, discuss, and apply the material together.
- ✓You are willing to own your part rather than only diagnose your spouse’s.
- ✓You want a repeatable plan for communication, repair, and weekly connection.
Please understand before joining
This program has honest limits
- •It is written for healthy, heterosexual Christian adults.
- •It is not for marriages involving abuse. Unconditional covenant never covers abuse, neglect, or ongoing betrayal.
- •If abuse is present, seek qualified help and protection without delay and without guilt.
- •It is educational and cannot replace pastoral, medical, mental-health, or other professional care.
- •For serious breaches such as betrayal, addiction, or abuse, seek help from a pastor or qualified Christian counselor.
Honest answers before you begin
Questions worth asking before you commit
Is $98 a one-time purchase or a subscription?
It is a one-time purchase of $98 USD. You are not signing up for recurring charges or a subscription.
What do I receive immediately after purchase?
You receive instant access to the member area containing all 41 lessons. The printable participant workbook is included as a digital file.
Can we complete this at our own pace?
Yes. The material is organized for a 34-day journey, but couples can repeat or pause as needed. The agreement recommends no guilt and no score after missed days: pick up where you left off.
Is the workbook required?
The lessons can stand alone, but the workbook is what turns them into a workable daily practice. It includes exercises, logs, agreements, and planning tools designed to be completed together.
Will this fix a marriage affected by abuse?
No. This program is not designed for abuse, neglect, or ongoing betrayal. Covenant language does not require anyone to remain unsafe or silent. Seek qualified help and protection promptly.
Should we complete the six-lesson course first?
The 34-Day Reboot builds on the companion course. If you have not completed it, start with the $19 six-lesson course for the foundational teaching before beginning the reboot.
30-day guarantee
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Get a full refund.
Try it without the lingering risk
You have a full 30 days to decide if this is right for your marriage
If you are not satisfied, request a full refund within the first 30 days of your purchase. Refunds are processed promptly, no questions asked.
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Your one-time investment
A structured 34-day reset for the marriage you are building
The program includes every lesson, the workbook, and the practical tools that make each day usable. There is no recurring subscription and no additional required purchase.
Complete curriculum
All 41 lessons in the member area
Printable workbook
Exercises, logs, and agreements
Practical tools
Repair protocol, meeting guide, and more
Instant access
Begin as soon as your purchase completes
Begin when you are ready
No countdown. No false scarcity.
Your start date can be the day that works for you. The point is not to rush. The point is to stop postponing the conversations that matter.
A reasonable next step
Choose a date you can protect
Set aside 15 minutes for the daily lesson and conversation. Invite your spouse to decide the rhythm with you before you begin.
A marriage is built in the practices you repeat
Start with one day. One honest conversation. One shared practice.
You do not need to see the whole journey before you begin. You only need to decide that your marriage is worth the next small step.
One-time purchase: $98 USD · 30-day full-refund guarantee
Built from experience, not shortcuts
Daniel “Dan” Blakeslee has spent more than thirty years helping couples repair, reconnect, and rebuild.
Dan is a pastoral counselor and speaker based in Virginia, the bestselling author of the Relationship Hacking book series, a former Navy submariner and Chief Petty Officer, and a husband who has been married to Michele since 1981. They have two daughters.
The 34-Day Relationship Reboot turns those decades of pastoral and counseling experience into a practical program couples can follow together, without turning their marriage into a classroom exercise.
A clear next step
You can know what is included before you buy
What exactly do I pay today?
$98 USD once. There is no subscription and no recurring charge.
How do I receive the program?
After purchase, you receive instant access to the member area with all 41 lessons and access to the printable participant workbook as a digital file.
What if the program is not right for us?
You may request a full refund within 30 days. Refunds are processed promptly, with no questions asked.